When I put my house on the market a few years ago, I mentally gave myself a year for the full transition to happen because I knew people in my neighborhood that had their houses on the market for six months or more. One week after listing, I accepted an offer and three weeks later I was meeting the moving van at my apartment in another state. It was a lot of work but it all came together. I was settling into my new home.

Yep, there I was, without a doubt or second thought about my decision or my choices. I had yet to learn that fast, and at times, dramatic changes, are unsettling even when it is exactly what I want.

For example, I made up my mind about when to make an appointment to have work done on my car. I am retired and was new in town so there were no commitments keeping me from going to the dealership. I made the decision to have the work done and four or five days later I still hadn't called. Why? Because I was hung up on when to get it done!

As I write...